I have seen some posts about how a guy’s girlfriend, fiancé, wife are not too keen about you wearing your kilt in public…if at all.
In many cases a lot of us start donning the kilt when we discover or re-discover our Celtic heritage. At least that was the case for me. I have to admit that I was kind of living a double life, my kilted life which I wanted to live and my pants life which I was currently living at that time.
How does one make the transition?
Right now, with all the Covid19 things going on, it is a good time to start introducing your significant other to your kilted life.
First things first, start wearing it around the house. Do yard work, clean out the garage, work on the honey-do list (you get bonus points for that) Let her get used to seeing you in your kilt.
NOW part of wearing it is also selling it to her non-verbally. You want to try to look good while doing things around the house. Wear a nice shirt or nice fitted T-shirt and wear your kilt belt. When you wear a proper kilt belt, it gives you an hourglass look, which she will probably find attractive. Wear some proper footwear like boots and such and shave and put on some nice aftershave.
Again, this is for her AND… it will take some time for her to get used to it and realize that it isn’t some phase you are going through.
Once she starts getting used to seeing you around the house doing chores and such, then help educate her. I have found that watching shows and movies where they are wearing kilts really help.
- Rob Roy
These will help get her started and help educate her to the Celtic lifestyle.
One show in particular based on the books byis the Outlander series. If she likes to read, get her the first book. When she is done with it she will jump to the next, but will also be hooked with the Celtic heritage as well.
There is also a TV show that corresponds with the books, titled…”Outlander”. Personally, this is a great way to introduce your significant other to the kilted life. Watching the show, she will see a lot of men in kilts. I mean who doesn’t like great sword fights, hero’s swooning the lasses, and kilts in every scene?
This show is a great show and a series that I personally love.
Start going to Celtic events where you can wear your kilt and she can see other men also wearing kilts. By doing this she will see that there are a number of other guys who love and appreciate the kilted lifestyle.
Events like Celtic games, Celtic festivals, Burn’s Dinner night. These are great introductions.
Another thing is wearing a kilt and have a matching sash for her to wear. A nice sash broach is a nice surprise to give your wife. She can wear this with a nice little black dress all the way with jeans and a t-shirt. This allows her to be part of the Celtic / kilted life and start taking apart in it.
With social media playing such a huge part in most people’s lives, start looking for kilt groups, much like the one that I run on Facebook – Real Men Wear Kilts.
Tap into your local Celtic society / highland games association. For me, I am part of The Houston Highland Games Association.
When we are not living the Covid19 life, many of us get together, don the kilts and go hit a pub or something at least once a month. It is a lot of fun and helps get you out of the house.
By getting involved in groups like this, you start meeting like minded people and making friends with other kilties. Getting together at the local pub or doing some things like “Tartan Tuesday” which is popular in many of the larger cities.
Now if you have done all of this and she is still not buying into this whole kilt thing. There comes a point where it’s YOUR backside in that kilt and not hers. You need to be firm with her. Otherwise if you don’t stand your ground. She’s not going to respect you if you let her steamroll all over you too. If she refuses to be seen with you in public with a kilt on, then it’s up to you to decide whether or not you want to give in to the blackmail, or stand up and have some cajones. If that means going out without her, then I guess she loses out. Do this a few times and she might come around and realize that this is not some quirk or some mid-life crisis thing. What it is about is you being proud of your Celtic heritage and it runs deeper than just some fabric wrapped around your waist.
You and I know that you love your wife, and you need to be considerate. Give her a chance to get used to it. Slowly introduce her to the phases that I wrote about above. Wear it around the house a bit. Take her to the Games so that she see’s a lot of men in kilts and hopefully comes to view it as more “normal”. Rent movies. Talk to her. Be patient.
It all boils down to a simple fact.
Be considerate… Yes.
Try to educate. Yes.
But in the end, don’t be a doormat.
I hope that this article has helped you and if you have any suggestions, tips and such. Comment below and share them with me, I would really love to hear how you were able to win your reluctant significant other over to the kilt.
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